How do things change? Things in nature change by the simple, yet complex, cycle of life… But, what about human change? Emotional change? Change by force? Change by choice? Change by luck? Change through prayer?
This could go on and on forever.
In my fairytale world, I would like to think that little creatures create change. Little tears of love, pouring down the cheeks of a precious "Hada," (the "H" is silent) Causing the most unusual fungi to grow… Dances nurturing life… It is a sweet thought, if not silly…(painting below is in le shoppe)
But what about "real world," chaotic, unwanted or even yet, unexpected change?? IS this really me? These wrinkles? Do I really need industiral strength knickers?? Will my friends really think I look smarter??? WHAT???? Please, DO NOT ask me if I have been dieting. (photo from corsetiere.com)
And, what about a glance in the mirror while getting into the shower.. It might lead you to ask, "Is that me or is that the woman I just saw in my national geographic magazine?" You know, the one who has not worn a brassiere, well, um, ever??? Or, have we aged every so gracefully? Those women who grow more beautiful with age? Perhaps, even having attained the body of our dreams (ya right), but maybe? (AshleyG has a really good tip about Brassiere's)
Where on earth am I going with all of this? Okay Okay, I am a cake, of the nutty kind. But, you are too for meeting me here like this… Although, I thank you profously for doing so. (giggling) Hey, that looks really good! (photo below & Recipe Included from) If you make it, send me some.
Back to the point. I am entering that sensitive zone of, yes, accessories. Don't act like you think this is silly. I know you have been wearing those favorite shoes of yours "forever." I know, you get a new pair, wear them for a day or so, and revert to the fave, more comfy pair. I also know, you buy a new hand-bag, sometimes for lots of bucks, and then revert to the old one… C'mon, who are you trying to kid? You know how I know?
Because, I have been reverting back to this bag for 5 years. You know, my baby, the one that weighs a ton? Remember it here? And, I have 5 pairs of my favorite shoes, which I wear every day. I don't mean 5 pairs in different colors! I mean 5 pairs of the exact same color.
Or, you might find me in the frilly shoes…
But usually it is the same pair, and the same bag. You know what I think about wearing the same bag and the same shoes everyday? I think it is MARVELOUS! I think we should do what we want. Hey, if I can't part with my bag, who cares???
The truth is. Change happens everyday. And, I am not one who likes huge change, or even little change, at all really. I am a delighted girl, in my little world. I do what I want, when I want. I wear what I want. I hardly ever follow clothes trends. Sometimes they creep up on me. But, for the most part, I like what I like. And I think that, that is the key. Be you, do what you want to do…
I mean, things are going to change even when we don't want them to. Some people are really hung up on age and aging. It is a huge product of our society. But, I didn't even notice that I turned 31. I have no concept of age. I love who I love, I am friends with those that my soul is drawn to. I know girls who turn 17 and look 45 to me. I also know women who are 73 and exude 25.
I am who I am, I have to be happy now. There is no, "well, when I get married, this will change..or If I do this, the following will change." No way. The time to embrace yourself, with all your imperfections, with all your quirks is now. If you can embrace who you are, you can live (as in frolick and play). And, live happily. Trust me, it is not easy. I battle that every day. But, we have to try. The future, when our lives will be better might not happen. We have to love this time, this moment, this place…
The truth is, I don't look at the past like "oh, how I wish that time would come back." I look at it like, "Wow, it was great, and I am glad I learned so much from all the insanity." I also realize, I don't tan like I did at 18. I have not tanned in 6 years. I avoid the sun, for the most part. I don't have peaches n' cream skin like I did in my 20's, nor do I have those wrinkle free eyes. But, I don't care or wish it back. Is that weird? I just shrug my shoulders and think, that was nice, what's next… I just don't have time to dwell in the past. I want to be at peace with it all. Don't you?
So, darn it! If you want to wear your hair the same way you did in 1975. Then do it. Why do we have to change those little things that we do not want to? Persuasion???
Temptation?
I have to admit. I did fall for temptation & persuasion. Recently, actually…
In the form of…This pattern…
Yep. I purchased this treasure from AngelDamico. It is perfect summer bohemian. I love it. And, I am sitting podering, how long it might take to transfer my items into it…
Here it is in color.. If you thought you loved the pattern.. The color is unreal!!! See, this is change by choice.
As for change by way of persuasion… I mean, Come on, if a gift like this, comes your way from Marrakech, how ever could you not be persuaded to throw them on and feel a bit, Moroccan? Maryam, I have to take extra huge steps. I almost killed myself twice in these pointy treasures!! heheheh! I love em!!! ps: I am keeping the little baby arm on them…I love that!!!
Sooo, in this long annoying post we learned what things?
A) Don't change if you don't want to & Do what you want (unless, your kids need food, or, you have to pay your bills). For example, if you want to go undercover at night, in the brightly lit grocery store, do so. Do things, Within reason of course. And, don't blame me for anything foolish you do. I am released here, of all responsibility for your actions. You could also, sleep in your favorite shoe pile, undercover…
B) Since there is mass change going on around us, why not be in control of the little changes that you do not want to make? Like wearing your hair the same way you did in 1984? (photo from here)
C) But, more importanly, don't take advice from me… As I am in search of….
Oh, who knows. I have exhausted myself with all this babble….
you are beautiful, brilliant,and you have just said EXACTLY what i needed to hear today. Thank you for sharing your fantastic nutty Vanessa goodness!!!
And the new painting…well, it is just too beautiful to be true! Just like you!!!!
xoxo
Oh have mercy woman, you are hysterical. Love the shoes, Btw
You made me feel so much better… u have no idea…
Bacioni
Vanessa V – I loved every word of this!!! Every~Word. And I really feel that over the years I have gradually (far too gradually) begun to feel the same. So I am not as skinny as I used to be, so my hair is a little greyer and I am too lazy to dye it – I have more important things to think about!!! I wear what I want and I love being in my 30’s. My 20’s sucked in so many ways but I also have so many good memories – and now I put all that experience to good use – to make the most of my 30′ and onwards and upwards – and to make the most of my life!!!!! And you are too -in the best possible way and I love that about you. xxx
You were cute at 18, look remarkably like one of the many banes of my existence in your twenties, and are beautiful now. I’m glad you can be you, because I kinda like ya. 😀
I would happily change for that bag and those shoes. And while I am made very uncomfortable by change, I make it a point to shake things up every now and again because I know from past experience what good can be brought about by throwing a wrench into plans. That is, I change major things in my life – like my job or living space. But my hair? It takes me years to decide to cut it. I mean… just trim it. I gotta have some consistency somewhere!
All of 31 years and sounding so wise! I think I am one of those strange souls also, feeling old and reflective (at 26, next wk) while all my peers are partaking of drugs and booze and strange men…
Thanks for thinking out loud. Your blog really is a wonderful fairy tale land!
oh gee whiz
Vanessa
what can I say…
love the shoes
and
well…
this might be
very unpopular
but…
well… I’m only 18 –
who cares what I think
or do
or don’t
mmmmmmmmmmmmmwaw!!!!!!!!!!
xox – eb.
Oh my gaawd. I finally made it in time! Wheew!
Guess who’s ganna be sportin’ magical shrooms on the wall soon?
And by the way, I want that baby arm! LOL! I resorted to tearing apart an old broken doll not long ago to dismember her arms and legs. What I’ll do with them, who knows. I just wanted the arms and legs. Weird.
But anywho, those are sexy shoes!! With my luck, I’d step in a big pile of dog pooh and wreck them right away. Sigh.
I am 45 and I exude oh, say, 11!
Hehe. When you and Smoochie come visit we are going to go downtown on the golf cart and act our age 🙂
No shoes allowed! And no 25 lb handbags either…I travel light…a Visa in one pocket and my keys in the other!
Love this! Thanks, needed to hear this too, and you are absolutely right! In fact you are proof of the sentiment in this post. See, you are more beautiful than at 18 because you know yourself better, not to mention what looks good on yourself! Love that painting, it is so beautiful I don’t know how you can part with it!
my goodness me, what a superb new painting…. and your posts here are always rich with ideas!
I love love love the painting! I agree, shoes, hair, what ever it may be. Be who you are. 31 is a fab age, I did a lot of thinking and becoming me. I u want!love my 30’s! (you couldn’t pay me to go back! loved it but no!)So use your new bag, and wear the new shoe,or don’t. It is all good with me.
i am so glad you left a comment on my blog today so i could find yours! i love your work and your blog! i will definitely be back. the newest pieces you have done, i see you sell them as prints, do you sell the paintings as well?
The painting, handbag and shoes are fabulous; your philosophy, even more so! Yes, I want to be at peace with it all – although sometimes it’s easier said than done. The one thing in my life that has been constant is change. Being open to endless possibilities and adventure is wonderful, but exhausting. Sometimes I just want those comfortable shoes! (And yes, the beautiful ones mostly stay in the closet). xoxoxo you wonderful nutcake you!
Very inspirational 🙂
You keep posting “the best post ever!” Thank you so much for such a beautiful morning starter!
I agree with you whole heart and 100 gazillion percent…even if I do sometimes regret those little white hairs that pop up with ever increasing force amongst my brown ones…..perhaps I should take to naming them one by one, until I am surrounded with thousands of dear, close little friends. : ) Lets see, we’ve got Flora, Rose, Elsbeth, Mildred, Maude, Alma and then the two Ediths…..: )
I have been thinking about creative change as of late, and how my tastes often make shifts and turns before my eyes, often between the span of just 2 or three paintings….it’s always evolving. : )
And your new painting is so beautiful….and it sold fast….I’m not at all suprised, such beauty and magic!! : )
oh….and I had to say: You are so very beautiful! : )
Fab post, my darling fungi girl! I LOve..nay..heart that PURSE! With all my Heart! And the shoes! Oh..and the painting! Your words ring so true, oh wise one ! How old am I ..As young as I feel! ! Ha! ..~~change is gonna do ya good ..! la la LA!!!
this is exactly what I needed to read as in the next month I am moving and turning yet another year older….yes, I am really a grown up age now…
le sigh….
where does all the time go??
I agree with everything Ms. Fanci! Fabulous Post. Just the talk show I needed to tune into. Don’t you think that when you are involved and passionate about something like your art, you do not have time to dwell on insignificant things? I agree with your thoughts on style too. Having ones own unique style and being confident in it, those are the ones that draw me like a magent! I can spot em from a mile away. I love people of all ages. It keeps life fun and interesting. Hope you have a magical day Vanessa!
oh too me…i have never followed trends…i like setting them…i have always been the me i am…but just now starting to love the me i am…and for that i am sorry…i was always loveable…happy shoes…happy bags…happy being you…blessings, rebecca
We just get better as we get older.
LOVE THIS…I received a baby arm for my birthday a couple of years ago. I think I have 3 now. I may try the 80’s ‘DO’ on for fun today, you are very inspiring!!
Babble away dear!!! I am one of those gals who for better or worse can’t help being me,trends ALWAYS turn my head,but never at the cost of ME !!! Getting older? Hmmph,so what? You truly are as younge as you feel ,no matter what the casting directors tell you! Change is the hard one for me. Time marches on and we all change,but for some reason aging and ,what I feel to be,”the dreaded thought of CHANGE” ,seem quite 2 different animals to me.
So in the eloquent words of Randy Jackson,of AI fame,”I feel ya dawg”. Just try to pry my favorite purse out of my cold daid fingers! Don’t dare suggest taking my fave moth-bitten vintage coat to the Goodwill. …and my absolute all-time favorite cowboy boots….well…”Do ya feel lucky punk,do ya?”!
well, gosh. I love it when you babble. I have a favorite pair of shoes…my new pink crocs that my husband says are so ugly but I love them so I wear them anyway….I’ve never been able to wear those so sexy point shoes…but I do love them! Anyway…go read my blog. I nominated you for an award.
firstly, some gushing….luuurve the purse, the screen printing is just fantastic, so arty, so you! the photos of you from 18, 20 and 30, what a beautiful lady you are, and getting more beautiful by the minute!!! glad you are not tanning anymore!
now, about the beauty and trends….you are dead on girl! do what you want, wear what you want, be YOU! so wonderfully stated! i am a firm believer in everything you said…lastly, sigh, i wish i could wear heels….i’ve tried, i really can’t wear them, they make me wince with pain and i look ridiculous trying to walk in them! so, i embrace my ballet flats and i guess that is okay!
A good lesson learnt, it is so important to be comfortable in your own skin and be yourself. In the past, I have been one to always look to others for approval / that there was no reason for people not to like me, cos’ I try hard! But really, to LIVE a life you’re happy with is the only way to be…I still struggle with the ‘if this happens, then’ scenario, but reading your post today helps me to try to get past that. PS. I LOVE your yellow shoes and bags.
Sweetie, I am old enough to be your Mom and that FREAKS me out! BUT I am really only about oh, 12….. 18 tops in every other way! lol! It’s just a number but I admit the physical changes do suck sometimes…and I am doing my best to accept them gracefully…just as soon as I get my boobs OUT of my favorite shoes!
Enjoy your life….and absolutely, positively wear what you want, be who you want, sing loud, dance wildly and be HAPPY in your own skin…just do it barefoot!
XOXO
p.s. I have a thing about handbags..so many that I recently sent a box full to Smoochie Lips….and it barely made a dent. And guess what, I seem to be sporting the same one all the time. Go figure!
oh…forgot to tell you….I think you are beautiful!
Okay, this is the best post EVER!! Nice to “meet” you. I will be back, for sure. And your art….a-m-a-z-i-n-g!!
Donna
Wonderful! The bag, shoes…and of course your art. All amazing eye candy. I was just saying to a friend of mine the other day…if you’ve never done ____ or ____, what are you waiting for? You only have a finite amount of time that you are right here, right now…and you should seize it, and live it…Stop waiting, do what you want, do what you need, and finally live!
I’ll never ever get tired from reading your “babble” 🙂
Keep on.
You Beautiful and Wonderful young woman…how did you get to be so wise?
Love the old shoes, the new shoes…oh!!!my they are wonderful, both bags are fantastic.
I like your philosophy on aging…especially since I will have my very, very big Birthday on Monday…ok!!fairly big, enough so that the govenment has taken notice and they will send me a check each month.
Age is all in the mind anyway and I feel young and some say I look younger than my age…I just love it when they say that 🙂
You’re better than Oprah! Love this post, yechhh, that hair from ’84, don’t even want to see what I was sporting in ’84.
The bag and those peacock’s….mmmmmm and well, the shoes!! How great are they????
Here’s to being you! and me! and all these creative women!!!
What a fabulous philosophy you have, and one that can keep you happy for a very long time! Yes yes yes I agree with every word you say, be what you want and do what you feel as long as it brings joy to yourself and others.
Though change is not bad, my life hashad many curve balls and change, which I find to be wonderful.
Thank you for reminding us to enjoy who we are!
I can soooo relate!!! Just last week I went out and bought a pair of shoes like my old ones that had worn out!!! They were so comfortable and went with everything, I just had to replace them.
Keep on being you!!!
Yo Wonder Woman I’m coming for the bag and the shoes. Better hide them. You can keep the girdle.
And hey! We’re the exact same age. I mean 44 is the new 31 right?
Love those shoes!!!!!! And your art is so amazing vanessa,your posts keep getting longer and better(if that is possible??)and attracting more and more readers I LOVE IT!
hugs Dees
please start a talk show! i will watch it every day!!!!
I love love LOVE this post! I agree that we should never wish time back again. The only thing in my past that I miss is my fast metabolism. Ha! Just kidding… I’m like you… glad I had the experiences and the blessing to learn from everything that has happened to me up to this point.
And, like you, I have a favorite bag that I always go back to. It is a beautiful camel leather Prada train bag that is broken in in all the right places. I couldn’t part with that bag if I wanted to… well, I might if I could find an Isabella Fiore like yours! Ha!
Great post… thanks for sharing your insights.
xo,
Karen Beth 🙂
P.S. You CANNOT be 30… SERIOUSLY!??!?
love this post V!!! I totaly agree…be what you want to be…im sick of seeing clones – everyone looks the same, same hair same trendy clothes, same same boring boring…be individual…its hard sometimes to be one and takes a lot of guts but i agree with you!
love the new bag and shoes – stand outs!!
you’re a cutie!
Ok!!!You can come over now and sing me a Happy Birthday xox
vanessa, i think you are just marvelous! really and truly a marvelous soul!!!
and one day we must meet up at that pub and chat.
until then,
blessings,
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