I was always told I was an impatient kid. I suppose I was for many reasons. Even when I started painting at 11, I chose acrylic, since it dried quicker. I would paint huge canvases with quick strokes like a mad woman. Completing one right after the other. And yes, I did go bonkers waiting for after school microwave treats. 3 minutes felt like so much longer. And, I did go insane in classes, waiting for the hour to be up. Doodling anywhere I could, for sanity’s sake.
But then, we have today.
I save gifts for opening at the perfect moment, even if it is days later. I put something in the microwave, and 4 hours later remember I forgot my nuked edible.
I sit silently.
Waiting.
Pondering.
Thinking.
I paint slowly.
So slowly sometimes.
Focusing on little details for months.
And then, there is the cottage…
One year after the outside was built and the inside was insulated and dry walled, I patiently await its move in ready moment.
Happily waiting, as Mister Lovee works his magic on the inside.
Taping, texturing, painting.
Building out the inside plans he drew up before the cottage was even built.
He isn’t a carpenter by trade, but he makes great things.
Things like, all of my work benches in the studio and office, my bed frame in my room, and my counter/cabinet in the office kitchenette – to name a few.
He is a perfectionist.
He takes a long time, but it is always worth it.
I watch him.
Days, weeks, months – a year.
He works.
I bring him cold lemonade, water, peanut butter & jelly sandwiches (his fave), the seasons change…
There is homemade pizza, hot chocolate, pie, cake and then we are back to popsicles and cold treats…
A year of any free moment in the cottage, is where he has been.
I have taken over lots of other chores, to give him more cottage time.
Tree trimming, all the gardening, cleaning house, laundry, lawn mowing, raking, picking up brush with my wheel barrow, making meals, dishes…
Wait, I already did a lot of those.
Maybe when the cottage is done….
Tee hee…
🙂
On his days off of work, or when he can work from home, he is covered in saw dust.
I stay patient.
I forget about the cottage.
I wait, but I don’t even know I am waiting, because I have put it out of my mind.
Lovee spends hours doing little tasks that make all the difference.
Rounded edges and corners on wood, with sand paper.
Thinking, planning.
Building things on his own.
Inventing ways to do it.
Sanding corners some more.
Then, all of a sudden, we get so much closer to being done.
Time and waiting becomes closer to over.
I start to make cottage plans again.
I get real real real butterfly roller coaster waves in belly excited.
(I had kept myself from getting excited to keep sane)
I take visitors 🙂
I listen to the drill and the hammer and the electric saw (hate that sound, makes me nervous).
I roam around the garden.
I watch those miraculous lilies open up again below.
You know, an old boyfriend gave me a grocery store bunch of these in orange 13 years ago or so (I shared this tale before). When they dried in the vase in the house, I plunked the dry stems into this pot outside, for no certain reason. I intended to throw them away, but just wanted to get them out of the house at the time.
They ended up shriveling and disappearing into the pot.
I have since moved the pot to the country, and gently work fresh soil in every year, along with other seeds…
But wouldn’t you know, every year since then, those lilies bloom in red in that very pot.
It always amazes me.
Can they root from store bought stems like that???
I can’t get over it.
Then, the Oriental poppy seeds I planted three years ago (from the OneStopPoppyShoppe), shot up a couple stems.
I watered the little plants that wouldn’t bloom, and kept them safe for 3 years.
They grew bigger and stronger this spring…
And then all of a sudden last week, blooms.
Yay!
Am I patient and I didn’t even know it?
Are you patient?
Maybe we are all patient and impatient about certain things?
All I know is, I don’t know how I became so calm?
Is it the whole older and wiser thing?
Or, is it a gift from the garden?
Does growing things make you a more peaceful and calm person?
I ponder these things as I collect tid-bits for dinner…
I think about cabbage patch kids everytime I look at those cabbages.
I take some to my neighbor down the road.
I sing, Cabbage Patch Kids, growing in the garden…
Cabbage Patch Kids growing in the sun.
I don’t know where I got that song?
Is it the proper Cabbage Patch Kids song?
I remember going to the cabbage patch store in California – the hospital nursery store – and adopting a Cabbage Patch Kid. I wonder where my Cabbage Patch kids are?
And my stuffed smurfs?
And my barbies and barbie doll house and cars and pool?
Wishing I had kept all of that.
(Weren’t there scary Cabbage Patch Kids too? Garbage Pail Kids?)
As I am pondering all this nonsense…
Mister Lovee calls me over….
We talk.
Me sitting in the cottage for the first time today.
He working on this and that.
My heart squeals with delightment.
I undo the forgetting about the cottage.
I tumble back in.
I wonder to myself, how did I stay so calm, waiting?
I dunno?
The time drifted by like a quick moving stream.
1 Year…
And now, I need to plan!!
I don’t have any proper ideas or anything.
Do you??
What ever shall we do in there?
So much to think about.
But first, I have to inch my foot out from underneath Miles’ sleeping and snoring head under my desk. Then I will run out there and see what else Mister Lovee is up to.
I almost thought I should give him the cottage, since he’s worked so hard on it.
Then I thought, nah 🙂
Love, V
ps: I made the rose oil (per previous post). I also put in some lavender. It is out in the sun for a few days. I will make sure to let you know how it turns out…














I admit it. When I saw the title “Cottage Chatter,” I immediately scrolled ever-so-hastily all the way through your post to the very, very, very end. I was excitedly hoping that perhaps, just perhaps, a full reveal of your cottage’s interior would be upon us THIS VERY DAY!!! Ah, but ’twas not to be. Not quite yet. But there were good lessons on being patient, and I shall truly duly try my best to be. What a dedicated man, that Mr. Lovee!
I can’t wait to see how everything turns out in the end! Mister Lovee has been working so hard and you have been so patient, waiting for it to all just come together…it will certainly be a treat to see everything you two have accomplished! You will share, won’t you? Pleassseee? Haha. Perhaps by next Monday? My birthday? It would be a great treat 🙂 Teehee all you have to do is become superhero workers overnight, no big deal 🙂
“Patience is a virtue” my parents would each say in their ornery, told you so, voice when a wee Queenie had a case of the I want it NOWs.
Now, all those many years later Patience is something I’ve grow better at through a combination of attending nights courses at the school of hard knocks and a true need for balance.
“Good things come to those who wait” is another parental phrase that was uttered in nicer tones that hinted to wonderfulness just around the courner to come and often turned impatience to anticipation for the wee Queenie. This too remains an often reminder.
Have a great day!
Always, Queenie
P.S. Soooo looking forward with anticipation to hearing all about your rose oil adventures :o)
Jessica,
I was just wondering what Mister Lovee would think if I said, you have to
whip this into shape for Jessicas birhtday :)))) It is a good excuse
though ;))) hahahaaa!
Miss Linda Diane, I feel the same way — I cant waiiiit for the inside
now that we are almost done with the inside building. He is such a good
guy, yes…. egged on by me, and fed lots of treats to keep him going,
hahaheheheeee 😉 Oh oh, I just got a chill of childhood excitement,
your eagerness for the end deal photos create eagerness in me. Oh oh, I
feel my patience sliding out the door ;))) haha! 🖤
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Queenie, I think our parents may have been the same people ;))))
Now, you have reminded me to go check out the rose oil……. I put
in some lavender. I think it might be an edible thing instead of wearable
🙂 haha!!
Gardening, my dear, forces you to be patient. You have done well. TPL
How about a reading nook? A wall of books….hmmm or an apothecary lab for making essential oils. I picture herbs drying….hmmm the possibilities are too exciting!
TPL – I know that that is a HUGE compliment coming from you because you
know all about gardening, and you once avidly gardened. I so respect your
opinion! I truly do. And I am so glad to know I have gained patience
from the garden……. What a gift isnt it??? Thank you for all your tips
and support!!
Nathalie, you and I think sooooooo alike ;))))) I am
dreaming the same dreams ;))
Ooo Nathalie’s idea of an apothecary lab sounds so wonderful and magical.
Mister Lovee is such a darling for making this for you,
Can’t wait to see the finished cottage. Ooooo it’s exciting just waiting for the pictures, you must be beside yourself!
Rachel,yesm, I am sooo excited to get in there. I dont know
what I am going to do with the floor…? Yet.
I have put the cottage out of my mind for a year (so I wouldnt go mad
waiting), so getting close to done is super exciting. Oh oh, I dont know
if you ever saw this, but I have a little apothecary madness going on in the
gallery…..
http://afancifultwist.typepad.com/a_fanciful_twist/2009/10/a-hauntingly-magical-celebration-halloween-2009.html
i didn’t even know you were building a cottage! how wonderful! can’t wait to see it once it is completed and decorated…whenever that may be…
as for impatient, i think i wear the crown for that title. i can’t sit still or wait on ANYTHING. tonight i am supposed to take my first ever yoga class–and although i know it is supposed to calm me, i can see myself, foot tapping, thinking “can y’all hurry this up! i have things to do!!”
i keep trying to be a more patient person, but so far….eh….
Oh Amber, you are so funny!!! Let me know how yoga works out 😉
Sometimes I have nightmares, and they are almost always the same. I
am in a classroom, desperate for the bell to ring to get out. – and i have
forgotten or lost a report that was due -and have forgotten to study for
an exam, and I am drowning, locked in the classroom, bored exasperated, freaking
out. Weird, but true.
Sometimes, Iput myself in a classroom in my mind, and I go
insane. I dont know how I ever made it through college. But, I did
like my major once I changed it, so that was good 🙂
As for the cottage, yes, a work in progress. A years worth of
work. It is so much like building a house, only tiny with no bathroom
;)))
Here is the outside during the last Mad Tea Party…. if you want to peek
😉
http://afancifultwist.typepad.com/a_fanciful_twist/2011/06/mad-tea-party-2011.html
Bizarre, did you hear me thinking out loud Missy V? I was just pondering your story about the mosst gorgeous lily EVER and yes, it continues to flourish and grace you and us with its beauty. Super Wow!!! The color is just amazing!!! Thank you for sharing again! It made my day! Love your newling Poppy too, well worth waiting for!!!!
I know what you mean about the ear piercing sound of the electric saw Crazy noise and Scary! I sooo enjoy the picture of your visitors. I giggled because my pooches follow me around all day like mother hen and her chicks.
You know I think you are right about gardening giving one a bit more slowing and patience and age does creep into the mix as well. I just go checking on my garden daily and sit for a bit on my bench to take it all in, to see the daily changes. Like, yesterday, my first blooms on my hollyhocks after planting them last year and finally getting blooms this year. I was very excited and I told my daughters I needed them to come outside and meet a new member in my garden. Crazy me!
Got to Love that Mr. Lovee! OH, the Anticipation! Ugh!
Enjoy your day Vanessa!!!<3
Kelly, this is tooooo toooooo bizarre!!!! You and I are on this
strange wave length of sameness, only in another dimension 🙂 I am going
gaga over my hollyhocks too, which have taken 2 years to grow… and I had to
protect them the whole first year from rabbits and rodents…. I got a handful
from about 400 seeds – and now, they are tall tall tall, and opening like a
dream….. Alcea Rosea :))) Hooooray!!!
Annnnd, my pups are totally baby chicks. They follow me so closely, I
cant turn without tripping 🙂 And i love it ;)))
Well, I mist say, welcome Miss Kellys hollyhocks, so nice to meetya
😉
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How exciting! I can’t wait to see! I was an impatient kid too!;)
Here’s an idea: when the cottage is completed, you could throw a party for Mister Lovee to celebrate! Or even a private party where he gets a massage and some “spa treatments.” (I have lots of natural guy-friendly spa treatment recipes, if you are interested!)
Happy May Day to you!
sigh…getting my rose fix here.
I have 4, count ’em 4 blooms! and am over the top. Such JOY to see your glass jars FILLED with beautiful buds!
happy spring!
x…x
OOOoooo does this mean that Mr. Lovee will be able to start on the Fanciful Chicken coop soon???
It’s both, little one, gardening and growing. I can’t say growing up, for I still have not, and as far as growing old, I don’t think I’m old! But the more time one has spent on this pretty blue planet, the more one knows what matters, and knows how quickly time passes…hence, the patience. We learn to be more present in the moment, then we begin to hold onto time, even as it slips through our fingers. It’s all good. **happy smiles** Deb
Miss Stephanie, I am sure you will get more, dont you think???? I
will hope 😉 Or, you can transport into my garden – have tea, chats, and
then transport back to your home 😉
M – I would love to know some!! Mister Lovee LOVES when I put a green
clay ask on him. He is into it 😉
Deborah, I SO hope so!!! We have two spaces that work, but want one perfect one….
He just says, put it on the list, hahaha!!
Oh you’ve been torturing me since last year’s Mad Tea Party! I know it’s not intentionally directed to torture me specifically. BUT IT FEELS LIKE IT HAHA!
Mr. Lovee is such a love to build this, and so meticulously and perfectly as well. It is going to be amazing.
I can’t wait to see what you do with the interior!
what types of soil do you use for your vegetable garden?