March 25, 2014

Chatter, Chatter, Chatter…

So, I was on a ladder, up to ribbon and fabric scrap shenanigans…

(which I thought I would have shared by now)

Whilst my brain rumbled about thinking about everything under the sun.

My brain, sometimes it drives me insane.

It thinks and twists and turns and twirls and repeats over and over again.

What about yours?

Yours too?

So, I finally stopped for a lunch break.

When I thought about that quote…

Matthew Taylor Wilson

(artprint by Matthew Taylor Wilson)

I have been a pretty optimistic person most of my life.

Making the best out of nearly everything.

By default, not because I try.

Just because it came naturally.

Even when times get tough, my brain pops into happy mode.

(after a proper freak out session of course)

 

Although…

As I get older and more of life happens, I find there are more things to worry about.

As if a worry wart needs anything to worry about.

 

And, I don't want to worry, so I talk to myself about good things.

Happy things.

Because if you can't be your own mind's cheerleader, then whose can you be?

(I can be a total meanie to myself by the by, so often I am a referee)

 

It's amazing, as humans, how often we drown in negative things.

Without trying to make the best of things.

We all drown a little every so often, don't we?

It's natural.

But to what extent and how we pull ourselves out is key, me thinks.

 

When I came to the country house 14 years ago, I had this shift in my thinking.

Instead of wanting more and more, I learned to be happy with what I had.

To appreciate the littlest things.

Rambling roses and birds galore.

(okay okay, I still buy lots of junk at estate sales, but you know what I mean)

 

Sometimes, just by nature of being human…

I think we forget that.

Appreciating the good in our lives, instead of only seeing the bad.

The war between pessimism and optimism weighs in.

 

Isn't it so much easier to just take a big breath and be happy for what you do have?

And who you grew up to be so far?

 

Than to wish you had something else.

And were someone you are not, and will never be?

 

These things I think on a ladder in early spring.

 

When I see how life can be tricky, if we don't hang on to optimism at all costs.

 

How negativity and pessimism can lead to anxiety and utter distress.

Along with fear and worry.

 

Last year I started doing calming breathing techniques.

(you know, with all the life hoopla)

Learning to just plunge off a cliff when life gets hard, into a bit of faith and optimism.

Because, really, sometimes you have no choice.

Drown and freak out…

Or put on a suit of bravery and jump, while screaming out "nimodo."

(which means "oh well" in espanol)

 

And above all…

 

It's important to be reminded that…

 

The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything.

But…

 They just make the best of everything.

 

Wow, what champs.

I want to be that person, I do I do.

 

It's about seeing a cup half full and not half empty isn't it?

 

Life never turns out how we plan.

 

And maybe, that's a good thing?

 

I say no no nooooo way to negativity.

 

And if it creeps in, I punch and kick, and take it down as best as I can.

Even though sometimes it's hard.

And I fail.

I don't give up.

 

What about you? 

Are you in on it with me?

This quest for optimism?

For seeing all the good that stands before us in our lives?

And being grateful for it?

Rather than being negative and pessimistic?

 

Optimism and deep breaths.

 

And making the best of everything.

 

YES!!

 

Life is hard and scary things do happen.

Sometimes we just need to give ourselves a big hug.

And promise to be positive of heart and mind, as best as we can.

 

This is the thing we need, don't we?

 

Random thoughts for the day.

Back with some crafty stuff soon, as I get back to my ladder and thoughts 😉

 

Loooove, V

 

Sparkly heart

 

 

  1. Kimberly says:

    Vanessa:
    This has been an on going work in progress for me. With our current circumstances, I’ve had to really focus on the positive…one day at a time. I still feel like I’m drowning in fear sometimes, but I’m getting better at letting go and falling into faith. This has been a crazy couple of years for the both of us, hasn’t it?
    xoxo
    Kim
    Gerushia’s New World

  2. Life is crazy isn’t it? Sometimes it’s so hard, but as my friend’s mom said when both her and i were having surgery at the same time – It’s during those hard times that we are given a gift to grow…
    Although, that can be hard, I hope there is something good to come out of everything bad…. I hope to all hopes….. Loooove, me
    ps: Just keep on breathing dear Kim, even when it seems beyond hard (you are doing a great job), I know things will get better, I know it xo

  3. bella says:

    I loved this post. I know exactly what you are talking about. I am an optimist at heart, too, and when things are going not so well, I just open up pinterest and look at pretty things. ha. I know things will turn around sooner or later and I just hold on for the ride. If things were good all the time then we’d never be able to really appreciate it.

  4. totally agreed!!! 😉
    Blog: http://www.aFancifulTwist.com
    Website: http://www.VanessaValencia.com
    In a message dated 3/25/2014 3:42:07 P.M. US Mountain Standard Time,

  5. Renee says:

    Half full kinda person here. Always. Even when sad things happen in my life I think of the good. I get so tired of hearing people complain about anything and everything.
    Spring is hiding from us again but there are red buds, Bradford pears and daffodils blooming everywhere. And then we saw sleet today. But by Sunday it will be 70. 🙂 See good follows the bad.

  6. I agree with you Renee. I will say all that snow and rain you have is
    going to make for the bestest spring! When it snows here our spring is
    ahhhhmazing! 😉
    Blog: http://www.aFancifulTwist.com
    Website: http://www.VanessaValencia.com
    In a message dated 3/25/2014 5:41:28 P.M. US Mountain Standard Time,

  7. I am naturally an optimist too. There is not much in life which can get me down. I rise to the challenge and meet it head on with an ‘Oh well, I can handle this’ kind of attitude. I actually hate negativism and try not to even ‘go there.’ There always seems to be an ‘out’ or an answer to life’s problems if our attitudes are good.
    I liked this post.
    Happy creating!
    XO
    Miss Teresa

  8. marlene ~ mizz honey bee says:

    Hi Miss V,
    Awesome words of wisdom that you shared with us… I have to say for myself I’m blessed for stopping by today… I so needed to read your words and advice… Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing a part of yourself, your thoughts & your actions & wisdom… Truly left a mark on this old/young at heart girl’s soul…
    It’s been a long time my friend, but I’m glad that I made a point to visit…
    Have a honey of a night ~ sweet dreams,
    mIZz bBe aka Marlene… … … ;O) xo

  9. You are a true hearted optimist dear Miss Teresa!!!
    Blog: http://www.aFancifulTwist.com
    Website: http://www.VanessaValencia.com
    In a message dated 3/25/2014 7:14:02 P.M. US Mountain Standard Time,

  10. Mizz Marlene!!!! So so wonderful to see you!!
    Blog: http://www.aFancifulTwist.com
    Website: http://www.VanessaValencia.com
    In a message dated 3/25/2014 8:43:02 P.M. US Mountain Standard Time,

  11. marlene ~ mizz honey bee says:

    Ditto Miss V, it’s always awesome to see your posts and art work whether through your writing, your paintings, your art and much more and your gar dens too!! Since I’ve seen your post I’ve had the song in my head of the “Little ant with the rubber tree plant”… It’s the little & lesser in one’s life that turn out to be the grand prize that we sometimes over look… Thank you again for reminding not only to smell my roses but admire the rest of my garden too… Blessings, mIZz bEe

  12. You are that person V 🙂 You make everything around you beautiful.
    And when those iffy days come along, I surely understand the loud music cure or flinging paint routine that you have down:) I caught myself trying the scream one day not long ago (alone of course) and I said…”gee that does feel better! Now I understand.” LOL … then back to counting my blessings and being grateful which always works.
    xoxo,
    Deb

  13. Miss Linda says:

    We have to think positive all the time…It will make us better at whatever we do. I know it is hard because life is hard sometimes, but it is better for us. Cups half full is the way to go.
    Thank you so much Ms. Vanessa, we have to be reminded because life is hard and we need voices in our heads to push forward.

  14. This is a life time quest for Me…..it will never end until the end.Even at the ripe age of 61 it’s something I think about almost daily.You have a good start,just continue My Friend.

  15. Doesnt it though??? Tantrums are good sometimes, haha 😉
    xoxo
    Blog: http://www.aFancifulTwist.com
    Website: http://www.VanessaValencia.com
    In a message dated 3/25/2014 11:10:19 P.M. US Mountain Standard Time,

  16. I think maybe it is a part of everyday life quests indeed Miss
    Denise. In fact, I dont think it is something that is intended to be
    mastered, do you? I think life gives us a gift to get up and keep going
    all the time. I think that at least. The toughest times force us to
    grow and learn me thinks…. 😉 xoxo
    Blog: http://www.aFancifulTwist.com
    Website: http://www.VanessaValencia.com
    In a message dated 3/26/2014 6:32:11 A.M. US Mountain Standard Time,

  17. Su says:

    It can seem counter intuitive, but I can tell by your beautiful posts and creations that you believe in giving happy or optimism even when there are worries or anxieties. xoxo

  18. Su says:

    I made a post, but it disappeared, so now I will just say ditto. xoxo

  19. Shell says:

    Lady V, I’ve always been am optimist since I was little. . Something I got from my Mom. Life can get crazy at times. I feel that life is easier to deal when you can still find things and people to smile about.

  20. Agreed wholeheartedly dearest Shell 3
    Blog: http://www.aFancifulTwist.com
    Website: http://www.VanessaValencia.com
    In a message dated 3/27/2014 8:11:19 P.M. US Mountain Standard Time,

  21. Jenn says:

    I am soo soo glad you are a person who entered my life in the artfulliest way about 3 or 4 years ago. You’ve helped me in unimaginable ways with our talks, your blogging, your way of seeing things, your advice! You help me to see the world in a way some people don’t even know exists, and the is a beautiful thing!

  22. DJL says:

    Dear Vanessa,
    I printed out these words you wrote:
    “Isn’t it so much easier to just take a big breath and be happy for what you do have?
    And who you grew up to be so far? Than to wish you had something else. And were someone you are not, and will never be?”
    I have them stuck on the front of my planner. They are such wise words but ones I NEVER remember. Now, I am trying to remember. It is a gift of yours to be so positive and such a seeker (and giver) of beauty. For those of us for whom positivity isn’t a natural tendency, you are a helpmate.
    Thank you for the gift of you!

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